A clear case for gay Conservatives is this: We’re not here to “push” any so-called “gay agenda” on anyone. We’re not here to wave a rainbow flag and prance around your neighborhood telling you how “Proud” we are to be gay. And we’re certainly not here to call you a names like, “bigot,” “homophobe,” “hater,” or “bible-thumping zealots” for simply stating things like, “I believe in traditional marriage.” or “I don’t believe in homosexuality.” (Although some of those names come to mind when I read comments that [are] certainly bigoted, our perspective is quite different, I assure you.) …no, no… we understand that one cannot persuade, enlighten, or make all people understand something they’ve never been used to, or know little about, and we’re fine with that.
As someone who was once a registered Democrat, and not very political, I found myself among a certain sea of “gay pride” Democrats who strived for acceptance and individualism in America. The thing that got me into politics in the first place was California’s vote on same-sex marriage (Proposition 8). Proposition 8 was heavily supported by most minorities in California. (I.E. Black communities and Hispanic communities — as both tend to be traditionalists.) However, it was also heavily funded by the Mormon Church. That aside, Barack Obama ran his first 2008 campaign on traditional marriage where he publicly stated:
“I believe that marriage is the union between a man and a woman. Now, for me as a Christian — for me — for me as a Christian, it is also a sacred union. God’s in the mix…” – April 17, 2008
It’s odd that so many, myself included, still supported Obama, and he was not labeled a “bigot” or a “homophobe.” It’s also very odd that once Proposition 8 passed, banning same-sex marriage in such a heavy [Blue] and Liberal State, the gay community and their allies decided to protest in random places throughout California. Places like the streets of Long Beach, Costa Mesa, Newport Beach, West Hollywood, Los Angeles, Palm Springs, etc. We, as I was one of these protestors, were going to places where we could be seen, or places we believed were the reason for our “Rights” being withheld, Mormon Temples for example. We were going to several of these places except the places that were the [real] cause of Proposition 8’s passing: Catholic and Baptist churches. Perhaps it was easier to stand in protest and call Mormons Bigots than a Hispanic Catholic or Black Baptist… I don’t know.
Fast forward to the 2012 elections, and Barack Obama’s new-found “evolution.” What Obama basically stated, and what so many people, on the Right and the Left do not recognize is that, yes, he said he supports same-sex marriage (Mind you, had that been a Republican, he or she would have been labeled a “flip-flopper.”). However, he also stated, after being heavily criticized by black Baptist preachers, that he would leave it up to the States, and he would do nothing more to push for gay marriage. So, why do the gay-Left hold this man up so high? What has he [really] done other than offer lip service? Answer: Nothing.
But, enough of the history lesson on the LGBT-Left hypocrisy. Getting to why gay Conservatives also need a voice within the GOP: I left the Democratic party a year and a half into Obama’s first year in office. I found, after [now] attending college, and starting a respectable career, that my ideology, the one that helped me get to where I am today, aligned more with the GOP than that of the Democratic party. People can criticize gay GOP members all they’d like, but as a pro-life, strict immigration, fiscally responsible, small government, Christian person, the fact that my sexuality happens to be gay, doesn’t mean I should vote Democrat. Especially when the Democratic party has become the “say one thing, do the opposite in the voting booth” party. Besides, prominent Republicans and Conservatives like Dick Cheney, Andrew Breitbart, Susan Collins, Mark Kirk, Rob Portman, Cindy McCain, Laura Bush, Scott Brown, Jim Brulte, Darrell Issa, Dana Rohrabacher, and so on and so forth have either supported same-sex marriage, supported gay Conservatives, [or] at the very minimum, [acknowledge] and promoted the fact that we ARE a key piece against the intolerant Left who like to accuse us as being the party of “hate-mongering homophobes.”
When I sit down with other Conservatives, whether they are gay or straight, we tend to discuss topics such as fiscal and economic policies, immigration, abortion, and yes, God/spirituality. And again, as an Episcopal Christian, I welcome any conversation on my spiritual beliefs. (I won’t get into that here, as that deserves its own blog.) Although many of us, on the gay-Right say we are not single-issue voters, the topic of same-sex marriage inevitably comes up and questions on the issue are raised. When I sit down with heterosexual Conservatives, who tend to be a traditionalists, and social conservatives, usually older than I am, they get a very different perspective of who a gay person is. This is, of course, because they have only known gay people from what they see on television, be it shows like ‘Modern Family’, ‘Will & Grace’, or news stations televising gay pride events from men dressed in drag to some in outrageous half naked attire. (They seldom ever show that “regular” couple there to enjoy the festivities. — that’s too “boring.”) So, I understand that they may feel “uncomfortable” with the “gay topic.” After just one conversation with a gay Conservative, I can promise you, you will have a better understanding of where we are coming from and why the Democratic party is NOT the party for us. Just a few days ago, an acquaintance and Facebook friend of mine, who is in his late 40’s, who lives in North Carolina, and is as hetero as any hetero man can be (He also considered himself a “Cracker for Cain” in the last election — lol. Sorry, Joe, I had to.), left this on my Facebook wall:
Merry Christmas Ben… Just wanted you to know how much I appreciate the education you have given me this year. Because I never had gay friends until [name] and you, I didn’t have a balanced perspective. There are somethings I will probably never agree with or understand completely but I wanted you to know how much you have enlightened me …Thanks my friend. And Happy New Year.
Look, I’m a Conservative, I have stated why, and I have shared a piece of my beliefs with you as a way to help you understand that sexuality should [not] dictate one’s political ideology. Andrew Breitbart, one of the biggest influences in my switching parties once said something that still holds true, he stated:
“They try to portray you in the worst possible light… and when I travel around the United States meeting people in the Tea Party who care — black, white, gay, straight — anyone that’s willing to stand next to me to fight the progressive Left, I will be in that bunker, and if you’re not in that bunker ’cause you’re not satisfied with this candidate, more than shame on you, you’re on the other side.”